A powerful photo of a baby surrounded by the hundreds of needles used throughout their pregnancy, was shared on social media by Georgia couple Natalie and Chip Young.
The photo of baby Connor was meant to be something for Chip and Natalie Young to remember about their journey. The couple spoke with The Daily Buzz’s senior editor Marnie Williams about why they chose to share their story.
Natalie and her husband Chip endured multiple miscarriages. “I feel like when it comes to pregnancy struggles, health issues, and miscarriages–it’s a taboo subject. People don’t talk about it. 1 in 4 women do go through it. So many people reached out to me after my first miscarriage. So many women feel alone. There is nothing wrong. I wanted to be open about it. At the end of 2017, we tried for 9 months altogether. With nothing happening the first 6 months. Then months 6, 7 and 8 we had a loss one after the other. During month 9 we found out about our son,” said Natalie. “Everyone around me seemed to be able to get pregnant at the drop of a hat, and then for some reason at age 24, I wasn’t getting pregnant and then when I did 3 months in a row, they were all losses. It was so discouraging.”
After Natalie’s third miscarriage, the couple drove to South Carolina to have additional testing completed. “Nothing was wrong with me physically, but had a blood clot disorder and a gene mutation that causes blood clotting. A week after the results I got pregnant again and I felt hopeless, because of what already happened previously. I had finally made it to 8 weeks.”
“I took control of my own destiny to take those shots as prevention,” Natalie explained. “The photo only shows half of the syringes. I had 220 shots. I had to get shots for blood thinning, because blood clots would be a danger to the baby. The shots prevent clots from forming. The chances of a clot forming after delivery is 6 weeks, so I had to inject another 4 ½ weeks of shots once a day.”
The couple was overjoyed to welcome their son Connor Jacob to their family on May 6, 2019.
“Moving 335 miles to find better doctors, 36 doctors appointments, 18 ultrasounds, an entire diet change, not being able to work, around a dozen and a half blood draws, baby aspirin, 3 types of vitamin supplements, thyroid medicine, progesterone from 5 weeks-16 weeks, and finally, 211 blood thinner shots in my stomach to keep you safe (around 250 total including 6 weeks postpartum). And for you, my sweet boy, I’d do it again and again, over and over, for you, a thousand times over. You were worth every single shot, every pill, every appointment, everything. Mommy loves you more than anything in the world. (Also don’t worry, there are safety shields around all of the needles 🤗)”
Moving 335 miles to find better doctors, 36 doctors appointments, 18 ultrasounds, an entire diet change, not being able…
Natalie told The Daily Buzz that the couple would like to have more children, but it will take a while before trying again. “I’ve grieved all my other pregnancies and it’s a stressful situation,” said Natalie. “People don’t share the struggles of being pregnant, there are so many things that go on behind closed doors unless it was talked about. Pregnancy is not easy for everyone as it seems. They have challenges and conditions that they don’t want to talk about. I felt like a failure for a long time. I want women to know that they are not alone. Raising awareness it’s not super easy. This was all I had to struggle to with and so many women have issues and I feel that my situation seemed mild. A lot goes into being having healthy pregnancy.”
Natalie explained that she did go through counseling and mentioned that Chip, her husband, was fully supportive and patient. “I was determined to find something that was going to work. I always wanted to be a mom.”
October 15th was recognized as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.