Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard opened up about their marriage in an interview with PEOPLE.
The couple revealed how hard they worked for nearly 12 years to stay together. Bell and Shepard have two daughters, Lincoln, 5, and Delta, 4 and are so proud of the incredible life and family they’ve built together.
“We definitely had to work really hard at being a couple because we’re both incredibly, painfully stubborn, and we’re pretty much opposites,” Shepard told the outlet.
In 2007, Bell and Shepard met briefly at a dinner party. Shepard broke up with Bell a few months into their relationship because he wasn’t ready to settle down. He quickly changed his mind, and the two reunited after only a couple of days.
“I was like, ‘That’s the best personality I’ve ever seen on a woman. I need to be around it,” recalled Shepard. “I want to be around it when I’m 80, but how?”
Shepard and Bell decided to do “a little couple’s therapy” and realized that honesty, trust and comprise were the answer.
Originally, Shepard did not believe in marriage. Bell expressed that she was okay with that and at the time accepted that they never would never wed.
“He has a great argument that the state having a piece of paper doesn’t mean he’s going to be nice to me and by my side for the rest of my life. [Rather], that is going to be evidenced by how we treat each other and the commitment that we make,” Bell said. “I had surrendered, like ‘Okay, well, I’m never going to get any sort of traditional marriage out of this, and that’s okay because I trust him.’ I really, really trusted him and believed that we were going to go the long haul.”
Shepard explained his proposal in 2009.“Ultimately, I was like, ‘Well, I’m doing it because my partner wants that,” he explained. “Forget the tradition or history of marriage as a concept, you knowing I was doing something that I didn’t want to do because I loved you was a big sign for you.”
“All these movies from the ’80s taught us that it’s love at first sight, and it is supposed to be easy and [that] all you have to do is find that person,” Bell expressed. “It took me a while to realize, ‘Oh, that was such a lie,’ because things that you work really, really, really hard for always yield the best results.”